Your parents think they know everything. And honestly? MOST OF THE TIME THEY’RE RIGHT. You probably should sleep more, clean your room, and stay away from drugs. There are a few times, however, that they say things that get under your skin because you know that what they’re saying isn’t true. They think they know everything because they’re older, but their years of experience aren’t always a trump card. Sometimes your parents were taught something that is now outdated and doesn’t really apply anymore. Other times, they’ve been beaten down by life and therefore have a negative outlook that you don’t need to take on. And sometimes they’re just party-poopers.
We all know our parents are doing the best they can and are saying what they say out of love. But just because they’re your parents doesn’t mean they’re always right. My parents wanted me to be a doctor or a lawyer, but I followed my heart and moved to LA to pursue a career in entertainment. They were saying things out of fear that I couldn’t support myself based on their own self-limiting beliefs. As I got older I realized I could make decisions for myself. Shocking, I know.
Here are some of the most annoying things your parents say that they’re actually wrong about. And yes, you can feel as smug as you want to feel after reading this.
1. “Well, if Marie’s kids got straight A’s, I don’t see why you can’t.”
Comparing you to other people your age is just so wrong, and actually kind of mean. Everyone learns things differently, so yeah – because your BFF got an A doesn’t mean you will too all the time.
2. “Never curse, it’s disgusting.”
There are definitely times in life when you shouldn’t curse, but it’s more about manners – cursing doesn’t mean you’re a bad person!
3. “You need to be realistic.”
Your parents have had plenty of their own dreams dashed on the rocks of life. Don’t let their jaded outlook affect your ability to reach for the stars. Yes, you have to think logically sometimes, but it’s also important to hold onto your real dreams.
4. “Because I said so.”
You should be allowed to think for yourself because it will empower you to make decisions later in life. You shouldn’t just blindly have to follow everything your parents say.
5. “Finish your plate of food.”
You can stop eating when you’re full. Constantly being told to finish everything on your plate can lead to a habit of overeating.
6. “When I was in high school…”
Your parents didn’t have cell phones or the internet. It was a completely different world.
7. “If you mess up this test you won’t get into college”
That’s a good way to have a nervous breakdown. Oh- and this is never, never, never true.
8. “You can’t do that because [insert bad thing here] might happen.”
Don’t let your parents anxieties be transferred onto you. Be smart, but also explore, go on adventures, and try new things…it’s the best way to grow as a person.
9. “You’ll understand when you have kids.”
This is just so annoying.
10. “You should get off the internet.”
There is actually a lot to be learned on the internet! There’s nothing wrong if you’re an introvert who likes to spend time online.
11. “You have to be number one or you’re not good enough.”
If you have super-comptetivie parents, you’ll always feel like you’re never quite good enough unless you’re the best. The only person you’re really competing against is yourself. Too much stress is going to be counterproductive.
12. “You should choose a career that can support you.”
Parents often project they’re own fears onto you. You’re the one who is going to have to deal with your career choice for the rest of your life, so make sure it’s the right fit.
13. Don’t wear that!
Your parents are afraid your clothing choices will reflect badly on them or portray you as a “certain type of person.” Wear what you want. Explore your identity. DO YOU, GIRL.